Steroids for Masculinity and also girls
Guys,
I used to weigh about 294 lbs and I was fat. Now I am at about 215lbs and muscular. Recent girl I was dating says she couldn't be with me because I cared to much about my looks than her! Like wtf should I just let myself go!?!?! The whole reason I got into this sport was because of rejection all through Highschool with girls. Everyone says dont lift for girls but at first I did and now I do it because I like to. However I am wondering if anyone has gone through this, this is like my 9th girl in a year and a half that has pulled shit like this. Am I cursed now because of good looks and a decent body? I am still fat in my mind.. I am 25 and have never had a GF for more than a month, she also got turned off because I wouldnt let her grab my dick when we were making out because I think that is small too! Im all fucked up in the head. Im like 6 inches long and 5 around. WTF is wrong with me. I been so depressed lately.
2nd question- I feel also like sometimes I am not as masculine as I should be, I looke really young at 25 cannot grow a full beard and have a round baby face. I dont like it. What could I take to help "masculinize me" I would like a hard looking face and body. I feel like a Woman.
Btw I have done 1 cycle of Test E for 12 weeks. in 2012
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Definitely get some counseling to overcome your issue Nate. Women like to have fun and be around a guy that can cut up and make them laugh, and make them feel beautiful like they are a million bucks. They don't want to compete with your good looks or hang out with a boring dull personality. Sort out your issues with some counseling, maybe even get some blood work done since you cycled you may have some hormonal issue. Once all straightened out live a little and have some fun and grow some character and personality and then you'll have a whole different outlook on dating. Best of luck bro.
what ever you do stay away from drugs, based on this post you would likely have problems controlling your using. I say that from experience, this is a common problem across the board for drug addicts.
my suggestion would be to seek some counseling if you can afford it, you got something going on inside that needs to be addressed and only you can do it. theres is some healing that needs to take place and it will likely not come from eroids.
while at 25 women are of interest I think you should focus more on some women friends that you can talk to and get more honest feedback. general rule of thumb is that if its happening over and over its not them and you need to look at you and whats pushing them away.
oh yes and what ever you do, be careful of the women that tries to change you. in most cases once they get you where they want you your no longer a challenge. nothing personal towards women but the truth is I think most of them arent sure what they want.
nate_1989what you said is the exact opposite of what I am being told in personal life. ppl are always telling me its them! I mean I am by rights a good catch, I am decent looking, I work, I treat girls with respect, in school, good job, above average muscularity and tall. I am looking into counseling alot of my self esteem issues come with being growing up fat. I asked some of my women friends what it is about me and most of them say its just the girls, they see nothing wrong with me. Maybe I am a bit clingy, I really dont see how thats bad. Not extremely clingy but I like to text n stuff.
9 girls in a year and a half and you think its them, girls are not into short relationships, they are leaving for a reason. there is an old saying that goes, while your pointing the finger at someone else theres 3 pointing back at you. In every situation you have a part, your part could be as simple as letting them do it, but you always have a part, until you get out of denial and figure out what your part is youll always point the finger. justification, rationalization equals denial!
clingy means needy, women are interested in emotional strength in men, they are not looking to give it.
There you go, you gave us a little tell. So you are clingy. Girls do not like clingy at all. None of them! Among the many things you have wrong going on within you you need to work on your self confidence. Self confidence will help cure the urge you feel to check in with them or control them. "Hooking up" is not finding a girlfriend either. You need to do some serious soul searching bro..
The strange thing I find is he is also a bit egotistical at the same time, borderline bipolar.
very hard to make the diagnosis based on the post and a few responses.. .. you want a diagnosis.. I'd spot you narcissistic with some depressive features...
but bipolor? where's your manic episodes?
Bipolar people do not all exhibit manic reactions or symptoms, my sister has it and so does my wife, there are mild and major forms of it. I was just throwing that out there and by no means an actual prognosis.
thanks Mack. I m rather well aware of how to diagnos mental health issues ;-)
anytime I can help
Hahahaha....... im lovin this :)........ quit playing with him or i will have to email him a copy of your "head doctor" certificate lol
shit.. sorry Viking .. ;s
For the record I think most of us guys here are pretty egotistic and definitely in love with ourselves if not full blown narcissist's.
maybe, but there is a HUGE difference between Egotistical Narcissistic and Self Confidence.. same goes for arrogance...
Yea, there definitely seems to be a personality disorder going on. Roids advice to him to seek out help is what he needs to do. Sociopathic and narcissistic are kind of in the mix..
there is a simple rule in life that most people don't get.. If you date fifty different people and it always turns out the same the only thing common to those fifty people is YOU. You are not clear in your head about yourself, this makes you not clear in what you want, this makes you waver in chosing women. You chose the same type of women and you get the same results. The answer lies within you .. not them. Look to yourself for the answer.
when you start thinking in terms of honor, integrity, judgement, dependability, initiative, enthusiasm, bearing, courage, knowledge, and loyalty ... you can let go of the superficial views and understand that the life really isn't worth much without having these in your life....
who wants a partner that is tied to the superficial.. looks fade, people age..
find a girl who has similar interests .. obviously she didn't understand the lifestyle of training and eating ..
as for what you see of you in your head, until you get over that and accept yourself for who you are you will always see something "less than" in the mirror and people will treat you accordingly .. unfortunately just reinforcing your poor self image
nate_1989I cant find a girl at the gym because when I am at the gym I am there for me not to try to hook up. plus i go to a hardcore gym and theres only bull dyke chicks around.
you don't have to find a girl with similar interests at the gym.. .. you are limiting yourself .. who said anything about finding a hook up?
Try the book "How to win Friends and Influence People." Just a tip.
that's a good book vh.. but based on his response ..he isn't ready to read it..
Yes. It was said tongue-in-cheek. :-)
I should know that ;-)
nate_1989hooking up means to me finding a gf
Women love money.
Do not measure yourself by success with women.
That is a common mistake,one's self esteem must come from the inside.
Your current measuring standard is transient and self serving to the matriarchy.
A 'real man' does not care for external validation.
Oh dear lord where do I start.
Everyone loves money, how is this relivant?
Bitter much? There is no "matriarchy" it's a mans world. This entire sentence is ridiculous.
Clearly you have never met a real man. A real man can and should judge himself on how he treats others. His kids, wife, mother, boss, sister, brother, co-workers, friends, ect a real man is a man with honor and he wants others to view him as such. Only a child or an asshole wouldn't care at all how others see him.
You nailed it when you said honor, add integrity and self respect and that is the trifecta every man should strive for, not how he looks or what he thinks he sees.
this man gets it. Read this x 10000
It's redundant. Everything else has been covered, so I thought I'd point this out.
PallMallYou'llfind the right girl for yourself sooner or later. Don't stress it so much.
I'm guessing it's your personality. No offence, but I've known many attractive well built guys and it was never their looks that drove me away (that's just nuts). I even dated a competitor that had to set an alarm clock in the middle of the night so he could eat (insane person). My point is it's not your looks, it your personality.
Insecurity is a major turn off for women.
Insane...... Now I know what's wrong.
Thanks!...:)
mikeyg4321Now get back to writing funny posts. Go'on git!!
LMAO you do this too! Ok maybe he wasn't crazy, but it was fucking annoying lol
I can quit anytime I want to....
I just don't want to.
As long as Grrl doesn't kick you out of bed for it you're fine lol
Tink22Find a new girl and grow some. I mean this in nicest way
First off I've heard several women sat that they can't stand a guy that has to look in every mirror he walks by. This is the mall test and mirrors are every where. Not to mention these types of guys seem to need constant reassurance of how they look which is a major turn off. I'll bet if you focused that energy you spend on yourself on her your relationships would go much further. And don't get too hung up on the size of your dick. You just have to make sure she gets her cookies too which again is focusing on her and not you......
Not many girls understand this kind of situation. I'm a year younger than you and I also started lifting for that exact reason. Now it's turned into something different and something I do for myself same as you. I'm sure it's quite common for guys to start lifting because of girls anyway. I found a girl who likes to lift and actually supports my AAS use. Maybe if you found a girl who lifts or does some form of exercise it might go a little better for you. Lol idk what kind of girls you were with but slutty bar girls will never understand the lifting/exercise lifestyle.
nate_1989Im not on roids. havent been since 2012. The only way I will love myself is when I get the body I am happy with
Your body is not what's keeping u from been happy. U need to talk to someone that can help u. You are blessed in life I seen your picture. U can walk and your healthy look around u and open your eyes to what's out there. I see guys like u that say things like this and I think to myself how blessed we are. Im not handicapped or have some gruesome disease and neither do u. Instead of looking at your short comings(which is just your precipitation of yourself). Look at all the things that you have been blessed with and be thankful your not in a wheelchair. This is truth talk it don't matter if u had a body like Arnold u will not find happiness in life until u get help with your inner demons.
Then work hard to get it and take no shortcuts only you know where you wanna be and do it for you and nobody else......girls have coodies anyway
This is the exact reason why we don't condone younger guys doin any steroids. U are no where near mature enough mentality to handle aas even if your 25. Your not super confident and all into your looks your a self conscious kid that needs to drop all steroids and mature. U may not like what I'm writing it's tough love. U need to straighten out your life it sounds like u have depression problems. U want real talk bro stop all steroids and seek someone to talk to about your situation. Here's the truth no women will ever love u unless u love yourself first. Until u accept yourself for u no one else will either. Seek some help and guidance bc here on the internet u won't get the help u need good luck
Boom-bata!
Excellent response.
Amen bro
DR. fkn Rolltide in the house! Get the op a couch and ask him to tell you about his childhood lol. Everything you said is true. If people are working out to look better and then when they do they act like a fkn girl and carry a pocket mirror then they are doing everything wrong. Confidence and the need for acceptance comes from inside and in your heart not what you see in a mirror. My mirror shows me how ugly my exterior is with my face that has seen more action then WW2 but I still jave no problem doing what I do. Time for the OP to grow up or start carrying a purse for his mirror.
BOOOOOOOOM +3 well said brother
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Well said X2 +2