posted Mon, 07/14/2014 - 06:34
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+ 3 Let's Talk about Girlfriends/Wives and Gear Usage
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I know this has been discussed, I know that some of you are open with your spouses/significant others.
But I'd really like to hear personal experiences of revealing it to your girl.
Was she suspecting it, was she surprised, did she dump you? etc
I am now going on 5 months with my new girl, and a part of me wants to tell her...I love her and want to be open & 100% honest, but a part of me is a little scared she won't see it. But I also wonder if it really matters. (just keep it to myself, in the long run I will probably have to tell her) I know the media paints a bad picture, so I'd have to break through some of the brain washing.
Would really like to hear what you guys have to say and I bet there will be a broad spectrum of responses.
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AnonYou've got some seriously misogynistic views on women, this was painful to read BUT I have to admit I thought the exact same way word for word in that past I get it. It's part of the social narrative we've been fed. If you come into a situation with the attitude that all girls are bad for example then they will be. If you come into it with the opposite attitude then they will be fun to be around. They are MUCH more aware of social cues and emotion than we are, they feed off of our energy or whatever you prefer to call it. We like to think we're more intelligent because we are the more logical gender but they have qualities we don't and masculine/feminine energy compliments each other perfectly. One isn't superior to the other. I like ya from reading your other posts no hate here and like I said I had the same view in the past
The amount of sex a woman has does not devalue her worth as a human being…. Going to log off for a while I'll PM you. We have highly intelligent female members here bro let's keep it to PM.
AnonWow. Great post from you tryptamine. I enjoyed reading this. Yes, there will be women who will never give a fk about you & want to sleep with you then never hear from you again. If two adults can enter a situation with this similar mindset, who cares?
At the end of the day, some women are worth your time & Energy and some are not. You have to weed that out individually depending on what you are looking for in a partner.
@ irongame- My best advice- stop looking. Stop worrying about random hoes at the bar. Work on yourself and become a person that you love. Do what you love. It may get lonely but at some point, you'll start to attract the right type of person.
No, i just like to weed out the bad ones early on so i don't waste my time. The last thing i want to happen is I start liking her and then she shows her true colors 2 months down the road, so i test them early so i don't run into those problems. I never said just because a girl has alot of sex that means she's a bad person. Its just not someone i want to have a relationship with. Do i think I'm less of a person because ive had sex with what some people would consider to many people? No. But what ive found out is the girls who are like this cant stop when there in a relationship. I dated my ex for 3 years and never fucked anyone else. Its a decision you have to make when you get in a relationship, but when I'm single i have my fun. Ive seen guys try to date girls like this and guess what happens, they get cheated on. One time in my life ive seen a girl like this get in a relationship and change her ways, but thats it. My views are based off years of experience.
for the record there is no discrimation going on here , i think a huge majority of guys are idiots to.
Bottom line, i been on tren for to long now and its gotten to my head. Nobody do what i do. Disregard my last post. Im not usually like this.
AnonI think your message just came out wrong in text, I imagine it would've been different in person. I'm all about not dealing with bullshit and weeding out people not worth my time as well I refuse to let negative people into my life long term. I was a complete anti-social fucking asshole that hated everyone on tren E so consider yourself lucky if that's the worst it's done to you LOL
Do not intentionally piss her off. This is no game, this is your life and who knows, maybe some day your wife. Just observe her, how does she handle things? You can learn all you need to know naturally without playing games with her. I am sure you would not want her intentionally fucking with you either, right?
I agree, its been 5 months now man. You should know what kinda person she is. Dont do what i do, it only works very early on. You just risk fucking everything up if you listen to me.
It was already suggested and that's what I did. Bigger faster stronger. Had her watch it. Then asked what she thought, had a good talk. If you know enough through being here and doing other research you can sound very educated on the subject and say you know most side effects are caused by effects that can be offset with other supplements. Eventually I said to her, I've done it. Talked it about testosterone, and the eventually, I'm going to do it again.
In my opinion. I wouldn't tell her. I would give it some time because there is a strong chance at 5 months she would leave you. The longer you drag it out the tougher it will be to tell her but if you wait long enough she would just be mad and probably wont leave you. But if your a big guy she probably has some idea.
I was considering an approach like this. I am a gem to this girl, she tells me all the time, no one has ever treated her so good. So my thought is, if I am basically perfect in her eyes...telling her of my usage won't be a deal breaker.
Ughh...relationships, I never cared before, and was fine being single. Now I am hooked so hard with this girl, just don't want to mess it up.
I appreciate everyone's input...I'm gonna tell her, I'll report back how it goes!
Welcome to the perils of a serious relationship!
girlfriend or wife's.. LOL can't afford one XD
Shit neither can I bro.
LOL maybe we need to open a group, "Poor man getting swole" XD
lol I'm down. Poor swole and forever single.
LMAO
AnonThen you're using your cock entirely the wrong way nooka!!
LMAO... it's a pretty simple point and shoot interface.. I got the directions right here XD
My latest knew before I told her but I'm open about it if should couldn't handle then she's not right for me. Gave my ex some anavar the other day and she hides it from her husband lol
If my girl would find out I was pinning she would be madder than hell. Would she dump me? probably not but she would probably make me quit. I tell her I just take a very mild, in the grey area of legality steroid.
Let her watch "Bigger, faster, stronger" documentary and let her find out the reason it was made illegal was bc of sports and stupid teens taking it not know what they're doing
I second that, I showed my wife that to get her on board, even made my mom watch it
Now I have been with my wife for 20 years so there was no reason to lie to her. I just decided after a certain point I was going to do it and I promised I would use AAS as safely as possible. That is what I have done. Before long she was using AAS herself. The couple that juices together stays together, lol
"The couple that juices together stays together" = comment of the day
Don't refer to steroids. Refer to testosterone. The drug companies have been spending millions on getting the public to accept testosterone.
Yes! Or I like to refer to them as hormones. Still doesn't sound as bad as steroids.
well said Greg!
That's what I did and it seemed to blow over. I was able to ease her into the rest after that
Thats a good way to put it, its what I did.....lol
I told my wife about my plans to use a bit over a year ago. I had to dispel all the myths, get her over the shock, put her mind at ease and she got off my case. The subject came up when she mentioned how she wished she could get some HCG for the HCG diet and I told her that steroid sources carry it and some of the things I need. "What do YOU need?" I layed it out for her and explained it to her. Now she's using hcg for her diet, it's working, and I'm on my first cycle at 38 years old and making pretty decent gains toward my modest goal. We're fucking like we just met and getting along great.
I've been married 15 years. When I decided to go the AAS route (not that long ago) I sat up endless nights reading about the positive and negative impacts on my health and actually discussed it with her prior to my usage. I felt this would help her understand what exactly I was dealing with instead of what she has heard by word of mouth or public officials who label it a horrible drug.
Since she doesn't know now you can possible start down the road "I think this is something I want to do" and get her reaction after schooling her on the positive and negative impacts to your health.
I think she is the one, and there is no change in character. I am very calm and collected whether I am cycling or not. Regardless, if something were to ever happen to me, I want her to know everything I'm on in case of emergency. But I haven't told a soul in my life about this, so I guess it's a trust thing. I will wait a little bit longer to tell her, but just wanted ideas how to start this kind of conversation
Brother to be honest, there may not be any real easy way to tell her. I mean in reality, you have already been hiding it from her, so you are kind of behind. From a married mans perspective, just tell her straight up, if she is cool about it then great, if she flips out and leaves then maybe she wasn't the one. 50/50 chance of it going either way. But worst case senerio, you are still jacked and there is tons of poo tang out there!!!
Well I was using before I met her. And I told her I love her two weeks ago. So I'm sure you can understand if on date #3 I won't say "by the way I use hormones to help achieve my goals"
In the beginning we were just getting to know each other. I still am who I am, with or without the gear. I've lifted for over 15 years, and I also don't want to take away from my achievements since I am using gear. She loves my body, I've always been a big guy. My test has always been on the low end naturally 300-400, so part of me is even considering staying on as a means of TRT. But I want kids in 3-5 years ( I'm 29)
I suppose I will have to man up and tell her, but want to approach it gently and thought some bros have been in my shoes.
Regardless all the advice is appreciated, I feel like a bad guy withholding it from her, I'm a very honest person with everything else.
big k, that's your opener right there, you told her you loved her. me I'd say something along the lines of, "love, because I've reveled my true feelings for you that I love you it also means that I trust, and respect you, so there is something I must share with you" and open the flood gates in your words. also congratulations on your relationship, sounds to me you found someone that makes you happy and fulfilled.
I hear ya man, I was just busting your balls a bit... My wife is a pain in the ass about a lot of stuff, but in my experience when I'm straight up, she is normally pretty understanding. I think you are on the right track, pick a good time and lay it on gently and I think you will be golden brother, best of luck to you and your misses
Deny deny deny. Even if she sees you shooting 2ml through an 18 gauge because you're out of 23 gauge needles directly into your ass, deny deny deny!
Think of it this way......... How long to you think you can actually hide it from her? She will figure it out eventually bro, she's gonna noticed certain "aspects" change in your body/character. Be honest and be safe!
I drew up a ml and hollered at my girl to come in the kitchen and help me with something. She comes in the kitchen and I hold up the syringe and tell her to hold that and I turn around and cross my arm over my chest and I asked her if she would stick that in my lat. She says what's that?? I say its that huge muscle coming out the side of my back. She did it. She's pretty cool with it until she gets mad at me and says shit about gear. Bro she will find out just tell her.
Hahaha oh Lordy! She didn't even ask questions. "Ok ill jab a needle in your back!"
i went through this with my girl...if she is the one tell her...otherwise it doesn't really matter...like viking said below honesty is the key to a happy life if you are in a relationship...good luck either way man
I haven't done a true aas cycle yet but I've told my gf I want to when I come of age. She's only okay with it because I kinda...tricked her....in the past. A year ago when I had done a little, but not enough, research on prohormones I did a cycle. I told her it was just a really good supplement and not steroids. She believed me because you can legally buy them. After I gained 10lbs in 5 weeks she thought I looked great compared to what I looked like before. I told her the truth and that if I took actual aas I could double maybe even triple those gains. She's 100% down for it now as long as I take the proper precautions. I told her how I have everything I need right now and she keeps trying to pressure me into doing it. I told her I need to wait a couple more years and now she's all upset haha
After thinking about it more I wouldn't tell her unless she's the one. You don't want a nasty break up and then have her telling everyone about your aas use.
Not being in relationships=key to happniess. Then I don't have to tell anyone anything and I can fuck whoever I want whenever I want and not be stuck with one girl.
you wont think that way forever.
While I agree the single life was pretty fucking amazing, there is however a lot to be said for the love of a good women ;P
Agreed! When you find the right one, you won't miss the single life at all.
I just don't see the point. What more can I get out of being in a relationship. Girls my age can't cook, they don't clean, so by making it "offical" I get nothing more from them, but now I'm stuck with one girl who can try and tell me what to do.
When I find a girl who cooks and cleans and lets me use geAr then I'm down. But I see no point in doing it I don't get gain anything from it and only lose my freedom. It's fucked up by it's how I think. Maybe there gear is clouding my mind a little lol.
Not at all bro ;) your doing your thing and your happy. At the risk of sounding like a complete soppy bastard, there is someone out there that can change that opinion in a heartbeat and there isn't a damn thing you can do about it
I guess until it happens for you there isn't much we can do to describe what you "get" out of it. But I can tell you that after twenty years together, a couple kids and all kinds of ups and downs that bond only grows stronger. I would not have believed the 40 year old me at 20 but I swear it is true. My advice brother, don't close the door on possibilities, you never can tell where this crazy life we live might lead you and it only gets better when you have someone that absolutely has your six but will also tell you the truth when you need it.
I'm sure my views will change at some points. But at my age it's hard to find someone who's like me. Everyone likes to go out and party and eat like shit. I don't drink, don't go out and if I meet a girl and her idea of a fun Friday and Saturday night is going out and getting wasted then sleeping all day eating like crap and doing it again and my idea of fun is totally different then were gonna have problems. So I need a girl who's cool, hot, loyal, doesn't like to get wasted every weekend, and preferably lifts, doesn't care if I use gear and if she uses gear it's a plus lol. Pretty hard to find one who meets the qualifications. But I would wife that girl up if I could find her. Maybe there's a website meatheads mingle.com lol.