+ 1 Contraceptives and weight gain
How much weight gain can contraceptives cause? Googling I only really found it differs from one person to the next, which seems obvious.
When we first met she was around 20-25% BF and on “the pill”, which didn’t work, twice! After our first child she got back to her regular weight fairly quickly, over the next few years she slowly gained weight but not much, I’d say BF % was high 20s to low 30s. Then after our second child she changed from the pill to depo injection, or fat jab as she calls it, and shot up to around 40+% BF, that was around 9 years ago and it’s all still there.
I’d never complain about her weight, I try to make her feel beautiful and loved every chance I get, naturally I’d like her to have her awesome figure back but I’m with her for who she is, not what she looks like. The problem is she’s not happy with her body, she won’t get naked in front of me because she doesn’t want me to see her fat body (her words, not mine), amongst other things in our private life that we don’t do anymore because of her weight, all her choice, nothing has become physically impossible.
I don’t know how to talk to her about it because I really don’t want to make her feel worse, I don’t know if it’s all because of the depo injection or if she’s using it as an excuse, every time she’s due another jab I offer to get the snip so she doesn’t need it anymore but she says she doesn’t want me to because she’d feel bad about me going through that for her, I’d cut my nuts off myself if it’d make her happy! I thought about just getting it done anyway but don’t want her to think I’m trying to call her bluff or something.
Basically what I’m asking is has anyone experienced something similar? Can it really cause such a struggle to lose weight or is it mainly down to diet and exercise? Finally, any advice on how to talk to her about it?
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Lili WilsonPerhaps there are drugs that do not affect weight gain?
Female-hormone-based contraceptives increase the SHBG serum levels up. SHBG "kidnaps" testosterone molecules, and it results in a bunch of side effects, as BF increase and a hard time to get rid of it, lean mass loss, lack of libido, and so on. My wife has became another person after stopping the birth pills. We use preservatives now. Perhaps it would be nice to talk to a gynecologist to discuss alternatives. Also, there is a hormone named Gestrinone that can be used as a birth control and, concomitantly, is known as "the beauty implant" as it promotes BF loss, and lean mass gain, but this should be discussed with her doctor.
I cant speak for the depo specifically but BC in general did not agree with Mrs Pickle. Mood swings, weight gain, acne, etc etc. Once we decided we were done having kids i got the snip. Its the least us men can do since they carry and birth our mini's. Shes been off BC for a while now and doing fantastic, in the best shape of her life.
The snip was easy, worst part was smelling your burning flesh. Hurts a bit afterwards, more sore and tugging feeling. I had mine done 3 weeks ago and i dont feel anything anymore. Best piece of advice i can give for the first few days after your vasectomy, cup your balls in your hand anytime you get up from a sitting position. Worst feeling ever having gravity tug those boys down while you go up LOL.
From the way you talk about your lady it sounds like you are a standup guy, respect. Let us know how the snip goes brother. Good luck and take care.
Depo def puts weight on them bro.
The trick is to get the injection 2 or so weeks early.
I think its every 10-12 weeks by memory give or take.
Get her to go 2 weeks earlier each time.
Seems the weight comes toward end of each injection cycle which is hormonal and its makes them hungry af aswell.
Side note- if the pill didnt work twice she wasnt taking it or atleast not properly.
Once i can say whoops thats crazy twice i say delibrate lol.
No offense.
Ps my misses is on depo and shes been putting weight on and drs said depo and hormones hence early jabs now.
Any type of hormonal contraceptive can put things way out of whack. Weight can go up moods can change etc etc it can also fluctuate with dosage and day, over all hormonal contraceptives make any schedule you are on more complicated to track. I know condoms aren't ideal for everyone and not everyone has access to a cock and balls that has been snipped (although highly recommended). But if she can stay away from any form of chemical/hormonal contraceptive that is the best way to go if you want to make things easier, and follow labs quicker and more effectively. Main thing is due what makes you comfortable health and mental and emotional well-being is the most important
Thats what the wife and i did. She was having issues going on and off birthcontrol as we were having kids. Decided after the last one that i was going to get snipped so she didnt have to deal with the ups and downs. She has been in a much better state mentally and physically since she got her IUD out.
I go in for snipsnip on Monday. Yea i know, its April fools day haha
After a post-vasectomy conversation, she’s coming off the depo straight away and we’re using condoms until I get the all clear. She was previously insisting on staying on because she knows I hate wrapping it up, once she told me her reasoning I felt kinda bad, I lied for the greater good, told her I don’t mind them, went out and bought some and ordered some online to last 3-4 months.
We briefly talked diet, didn’t want to go too deep straight away, her body is going to need time to adjust and no doubt it’s going to get rough at times so we’re just gonna see how it plays out but trying to avoid excess sugar and cut down on alcohol.
Most importantly, she’s finally comfortable being naked with me! Only done it twice, the first time I could tell she wasn’t really comfortable so I tried to reassure her and I was all over her, she seemed way more comfortable in the end, the second time she needed no convincing! Afterwards she told me how much she enjoyed it, gave her confidence a much needed boost.
I’ll try to remember to update after everything has settled and hopefully come back with some more good news!
Aside from the Depo, your body changes when you get older, and most certainly after childbirth. She needs to take a critical look at her activity level and diet. As she has gained weight, her metabolism has probably dropped as well -but not her eating habits. If Depot alone made everyone gain that much weight. I would hope docs would opt for other methods. (unless that's how depo works... "let's have sex." "Oh hell no, have you seen a mirror lately?")
My wife gained weight in much the same manner. We didn't want any children after the second and my wife was concerned about getting cancer from the pill.
So she stopped taking the pill and I got snipped (No big deal, you're doing it for her snowflake so suck it up :-p )
She gained even more weight after she stopped taking the pill. She managed to lose most of that weight by getting into the gym and stopped drinking.
With respect to raising the question about getting snipped, tell her you found this fact on the internet, "that taking birth control for more than 5 years may increase the risk of cervical cancer. The longer people take the pill, the higher their risk. " and that you want to get snipped. (besides that, you met this really cute girl at work and...)
That last part keep to yourself, she'll probably be thinking about it anyway.
As for the sex part. Exact same experiance. Finally got her convinced men are aroused visually. Eventually she came around.
We’ve had a talk about it, I opened with your quote and it kicked it off a treat, I’m so relieved we finally got everything out there, she seems more worried about the snip than I am, I told her I’ve heard that it’s no big deal and not to worry about it, I’m more concerned about the damage the depo is doing than the short period of discomfort I’ll experience.
She even brought up her weight and how unhappy it makes her, apparently she has been talking to her sisters and mother about wanting to have a break from the depo to try losing weight, so it looks like the timing was perfect!
Her main reason for wanting to stay on is she got used to not having a period and isn’t looking forward to getting them again, I’m not sure I can help in that department other than being understanding and supportive.
With regards to getting snipped, I should probably start a new post in a more appropriate section than the ladies lounge to address some queries.
Thanks to everyone for the support and advice.
Hey brother, I replied to your vasectomy post in the general talk section. Good decision, you'll never regret it, ever. Shooting blanks feels physically the same, but mentally, SO MUCH BETTER.
Getting off of depo will certainly be a new adventure, cuz I can only imagine not having a period, then going back to having one, that would be an adjustment. However, clearly her weight is an issue for her, and this is one good step forwards for her (to stop this form of birth control).
Regarding weight gain and weight loss, the "most simple" way of losing weight is through diet. Notice I say SIMPLE, not EASY. Losing weight is simple. Eat less calories. That's simple, not easy.
Others will surely chime in, "exercise more." Sure, that helps. However, in my context, when I exercise more than I already do, my appetite goes through the ceiling. It's not worth it, cuz I'm miserable from being hungry. Then again, I've switched to eating keto this past half of a year and it's quite the game changer, for both me and my wife, so perhaps I should incorporate more cardio back into my life... I digress. Back to diet.
The simplest way to drop fat is through what you eat, or rather what you DON'T eat.
A LOT of my wife's friends have switched over to 100% keto or paleo diets. (Most keto diets are paleo based, but then you add in cheese & other dairy for higher fat content.) My wife and I eat keto 90% of the time now, and it's worth it. (We'd be 100% if we didn't have so many family dinners with grandmothers who cook huge ass ethnic meals that we can't resist. But when we're back at home, we're keto, baby!)
If your bride has a "fear of eating fat" in her diet, it might take a long time to break that psychology. The easiest selling point on diet is the old fashioned, "how are we eating right now, and is it working for us?" If things are working, keep rocking. If no, change it up and do the experiment. Thats what my bride and I did, and I'm beyond words for my gratitude that we changed. It's amazing.
Good luck, and keep us posted about your wife's weight gain/loss on this thread. We're all in this together. This post will help other women (AND men) out in the future.
This effect is known with depot. It’s the only birth control that consistently shows this effect in clinical trials. Look into the arm implant if she doesn’t want an IUD or you don’t want to get snipped
Depo shot is the best birth control ever. Not because it keeps them from getting pregnant.
It's because it makes them FAT and PSYCHOTIC
And no one wants to have sex with them.
Depo destroyed 2 of my marriages.
It took about 5 years for the effects from one shot to wear off my second wife. Now shes normal. There was way too much damage from not understanding what was going on we went our separate ways. Both happily remarried. Both live a sain normal life. Now
Get snipped bro. I just had it done this summer and its not
Painful at all. Its very uncomfortable but it is really no big deal.
My only concern is the pain, when I first looked into it I found mixed experiences, from a bit sore for a few days to absolute horror stories of agonising pain for weeks and pain when ejaculating for months, it’s not enough to put me off but I’ll certainly be sweating going in!
jayiskKnow a lot of guys get snipped and they didnt complain.
Myself i would request a female doctor. a dude handling your rod and balls is gay..,even if he is a doctor.
even know guys that had it reversed and they snipped again.
Has the added benefit of your member being erect and out of the way. A happy ending for all.
jayiskplus if a male doctor was handling my junk and asking me questions...,he would get confused as to why i kept saying "no homo" after all my replies to him.
Have to tell him to ask Ed about it..lol
Dont sweat it man. It is uncomfortable getting it done and sore for a few days after.i was normal and back to
Having sex within a week. In my opinion people are more likely to write about there terrible experience then people who had no issues at all. All of the people that
imonow personally that had the surgery had the same wxperience I did and said it was no big deal. Getting snipped was one of the best decisions ive made.
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StevebAll birth control fucks women up in one way or another. They're all really bad for your health and yeah most women gain weight on them.
Depo is known to make women gain weight it's the worst one ever have her get on a iud no sides and antibiotics won't mess with the way it works. My wife has been on it for years and she never gets her period on it just slight spotting here and there every few months
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/iud
Ahh the ole IUD.
Ever catch that thing in the "eye"?
But I'd rather get one in the dick than live in a looney bin.
I cant complain now about either. My lady had her parts removed years before we met.
Oh yeah it's reassuring that it's in there
RustyhookerYou got an iud in the dickhole for reals? You know the iud goes way up thru a hole thats hella tiny? Lol
Never said it was wide just long. And yeah they can stick out of that tiny hole.
Thanks for the suggestion, I’d rather something like that than injecting the shit she’s on every few months, I’ll bring it up next time she’s due a jab, I think her next one is in February so not long to wait.
Yeah my wife and her sister and all her friends got it you never have to remember a pill or a shot the doc just outs it in and poof. The reason my wife chose it was because of no weight gain her friend tried depo and blew up like a balloon then switched to iud and lost the weight
Which type of IUD does your wife use if you don’t mind me asking? Reading the link you posted there’s copper or hormonal versions, the hormonal version seems to be the same hormone as the depo injection, I’ll need to research the available options in UK before I suggest it, for instance if the hormonal version is going to have the same effects as the depo injection I’ll need to know that the copper version is available, I’d hate to offer hope only to find she can’t get it.
ETA: just googled, both versions are available in UK, I’d still like to know if hormonal is going to be no better than depo though, thanks.
All good bro I just asked her and she said the mirena is what she got
Thanks, good to know any version is good to go.
Great read bro, I commend your attitude and love for this woman.
Personally I’d get her off the birth control ASAP, I’ve dated enough women who have tried various ones and each one sent them a different version of crazy with acne and weight gain to boot. Birth control makes Tren look like tbol in my opinion. Condoms, the snip whatever is better than that emotional rollercoaster they cause. But you know this already judging by your question.
Once things level out, hopefully things will improve for you and her. If they don’t talk with her especially about the sex, call me sexist but that’s selfish in my opinion if it’s not to do with birth control lowering her sex drive. You’re in a relationship she needs to work at the thing which makes you partners not just friends. Has her mouth stopped working??
Don’t forget to work on yourself mate, get lean, make new friends and get hobbies. She’ll feed off your own example and hopefully follow suit.
I’ve been trying to help my Mrs with her weight gain after our 2 children, youngest being 7 months and it’s been a rocky road..
We still have sex, only she always has at least a T-shirt on and I can’t get her pj bottoms off until she’s under the covers, once we get into it the covers can come off but there’s no negotiation with the T-shirt, other than that there’s a few positions she won’t do anymore and she doesn’t seem comfortable letting me go down on her, I still get to occasionally but our bedroom antics seem generally one sided, no doubt some blokes would like it like that, personally I want her to enjoy it as much or more than I do.
I tell her all about what I don’t like about my body and what I’m doing to change it, I tell her about my diet and how I would change it to meet goals, in hope that she can use the information herself if she sees fit. If she wanted to talk diet I’d do all I could to help but there’s no way I’d start that conversation.
I imagine the argument if I just went and got the snip without her consent, I’m 90% sure she’d take it as me calling her fat, I’ve already learned that “I don’t care how big you are, get yer tits out” isn’t a valid response to anything!
Maybe I need to start collecting articles on how bad contraceptives are, to build a case for a vasectomy that she can’t link to weight.
Thanks for your input.
jayiskafter the 1st child it seems harder for women to loose the weight and getting older adds to it. women have to really be on top of training and diet to get back into good shape.
but with the hectic life of them having to spend a lot of time on the kids they also eat out a lot or skip meals and then double up when they eat next. plus the stress of handling kids.
basically life happens. and unless they are genetically gifted or have they passion and drive to make time to train and eat proper they will stay that way.
And as you mentioned it doesn't help them if they were in shape and now because of having kids they are not. really messes with their self-esteem and mind and can cause them to guilt eat.
As for you discussing the issue with her...i hope another member can help....i live in the same house with my wife and kids and we dont even talk. She was a size 2 when we got married. She definitely is a plus size now and it really screws with her mind. Plus she went off the pill before the 1st girl and never took it again. But also stopped working out and watching her diet.
RustyhookerOther side of the box....have you thought about getting fixed? I did it bout 20 years ago and for me was the best move ever. Spontaneity , no stress, worries or more kids. Then she can stop hormones and make her own choices and changes.
That’s what I meant by “the snip”, I’ve suggested it many times and will keep bringing it up until she says go for it!
RustyhookerIf either of you have questions feel free to ask.