posted Tue, 12/03/2013 - 05:16
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Relationships interfering with cycles.
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Just started my cycle 2 weeks ago. My girls starts to pick a fight and decides to break up with me over bull sht. Question is that I'm angry and a little hurt/depressed. Just wondering if anyone out there knows how to beat these harsh feelings, and get the motivation to stick with it instead of feeling down all day everyday??
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Hey everyone. Just an update. Over the past week I have I guess got thru to my x and spoken to her Monday. Got to explain my side of the story. And again tonight I got to chew her ear off a little bit after seeing her in the gym tonight and decided to call her n she answer after a few calls.... Anyway I feel she wants to take me back but she is hurt because I'm suposidly not giving her all the attention she likes and I'm not treating her the way I should be. Also the trust factor plays a big part and I'm trying to find ways to work on that with her. Anyway. I'm just trying to hang in there. I mean I was doing good until I seen her at the gym. She never goes at night all the sudden this week she's been doing (double sessions) she told me... In trying to take her someplace very romantic and nice this weekend if she lets me. Any1 got any ideas. I live in the nj/nyc area
Anonyou said "beet" hehe
Lol better??? I apologize this is the stupid iphone with auto correct. I rarely pay attention. I look at they keyboard more then I do the actual text log.
it took a few for me to realize that these are my favorite kind of chicks! I would write them off and move on with my life, continue doing what i was doing like it never phased me, even though it did to some degree. And the weirdest shit would happen, yeah brother they would come back stronger then before, true story! After it happened with the first girl id take her back and she would do it again until finally im like i dont want you back, thats when i learned about booty calls! ive had a few over the years that this happened with, even after we where both in a relationship we would still bang once in awhile, and there was always a connection. the last thing you want to do is let a female know that she has weakened you, broke you, put you in depression, anything like that. if that happens forget it, shell be moving on to a guy that is stronger.
I hear ya bro. It's just like anything tho the beginning is tuff. It's 50/50 tho. When I think about it it's tuff and I want to fix this shit cause idk what the hell or why the hell this is happening or continuing for so long. Then there is the other half that is just like c'mon bro get it together and move the fuck on.
Just a friendly update. I'm trying to hang in there. It's tuff trying to battle through it but still no contact from the lady...
BilMcbigballsThe best thing u can do is not try to contact her. Feel the pain. Endure it and one day you'll look back and wonder why you cared so much. But if ur truly in love with her, no matter what anyone says it won't help. Don't be a coward like some men and go out and get laid by some chick. Any ol wimp can do that. Be a man and endure the pain with dignity. Hope it gets easier for u brother
I'm not looking to do that bro. I'm just letting some time go by without contact. And when I feel it's right maybe next week. I'll send her flowers to work and ask her to just meet up with me grab a coffee and talk about this. It's a huge Mis understanding on both of our parts. Like I said I'm trying to think positive n give her her space. Just don't wanna find out there's another guy. And of course any1 can go out n get laid by some random chick. But that's not what I'm missing. I'm mission my other half my companion. By soul mate.
Stay busy, surround yourself with positive people and stay in the gym! ;)
That's exactly what I'm trying to do.
Hint hint. Any1 see the new Benz
Cla45 amg. I'm not a ballet but been looking to get a nice car befor the summer. To go with my new body lol
BigBmajHow you doing today?
I didn't contact her in any way. I have work today. Trying get some food down. Still just confused. A mix of hurt and anger. So I made a gainer shake for my ride to work. About to eat some yogurts rite now actualy. 2 chobani black cherry my fave. Plus 28 grams protein lol. But honestly just hoping for the best. I just don't want to hear thru the great vine she found some1 else.
Thanx for the follow up tho. I was gunna post on here in a lil bit just haven't had the chance yet. Works a lil steady. Not busy tho lol.
I know this doesn't make it easier but if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be.
Also if it doesn't work out, it sux now, but it does get easier bro. Maybe not tomorrow or next week, month of even a year but every day it gets a little easier.
There's nothing wrong with feeling hurt so go ahead and feel pain cause u will get stronger from it, I promise.
Keep busy and think things through.
Bro I killed my shoulder workout tonight. But I thank all you for the support. Hopefuly she does comeback and I can tell you guys all good news instead of bad news. Lol. Just taking it one day at a time. Trying to keep my appetite up. That's the hard part.
BigBmajIf she found someone else I doubt her main concern would be her lack of trust in you. She would just happily move on.
Remember this shit when you two are lying in bed talking in a couple weeks and finally show her you really appreciate her.
Maybe this is the first step towards a great relationship for you two.
Bro. I just know if we do work this out. My levels will be peeking. N I'm gunna put that pussy in a fucking coma
BigBmajI wish you hadn't said that. I think you need to reevaluate what this woman means to you. If it's just getting laid then go out and be single and have fun bro. Don't put this poor girl through hell. She clearly wants more in a relationship. Seriously man think about what you are doing to other people with your actions. I spent a whole life not putting other people's feelings anywhere under consideration and now I'm lonely because of if. I understand you are kidding but it's a very telling statement. I hope you can take a minute to consider what your values are in life. If you find that "putting pussy in a coma" is what you want at this point go find someone with congruent values and all will be well. There is nothing wrong with that, go for it.
No!! No! No!!! You guys all took that totally the wrong way. I said that jokingly because of the fact how her n I have not done anything kn so long and she came to the conclusion I was cheating but that definitely is not it. I just ment it as the make up add if there is/will be any would be beautiful/amazing. But no bro I love this girl to death. I would do anything for her. Even till this day with th bs we are going through is want to send her flowers or something in that nature just to brighten up her day and show I'm still here. Then on the other hand I don't want to look like a fool or pathetic. One of the things she said to me last was there's no romance and you only do nice things when you screw up. That's true yea but also not to the fullest. She lives at home with her family n so do I. Things are a little difficult and strict in her house. It's not as easy to do romantic things it's not like we have our own place. Smh we were supposed to be looking into apartments jan 1st. But it's not about just getting laid. Not at all. I love the girl for everything about her. Honestly sex is not one of the top deal breakers on the list.
Oh, I m sure that will just win her over...
I'm just saying as a joke. Cause I'll be so thankful. Aka "make up sex" lol
she on her period??
It usualy comes the end of the month. So idk. I'm just hoping she ain't pull this bs because there's some1 else.
BigBmajI double posted so I'll write something new.
My friend is in a wheelchair in physical therapy right now and he cannot use his legs. He was a avid motorcyclist and lifter so he's fucking bummed, but he is doing better than some of the people I know who have broken hearts. It's just a totally different kind of pain. And some people deal with pain much better than others. I for instance should handle it like a champ because I've experienced more than enough, but I don't. I take any sensation I experience as pain - happiness even sucks because of impermanence. So I think it's time we grow up and realize there is a whole world of pain out there and we are not so special to avoid it. And why should we have the luxury of falling completely apart when we feel it? I think the sense that I (bmaj, my true nickname) shouldn't have to feel pain has caused me much more pain in the long run.
You won't even be thinking about today in 2 weeks, months, or years. It's like being in elementary school where everything was JUST SOOO IMPORTANT, and it was, but it's not. You will be either stronger or stressing about something else. I'm going to choose to get stronger.
Good luck.
It's just confusing bro. In the past if we broke up for good I usualy got all my shit returned to my house like left on my door step or hood of my car. I don't have much at her house but ther is some stuff. Idk if she threw it out or what. But she hasn't returned it. I'm hoping maybe she just wants me to have my space to think??? But I guarantee if I go out and bang some chick and she finds out it will fire her up again and then I'll see all my shit at my house lol.
BigBmajI tried the banging some other chick thing and it doesn't work. I don't just want to get laid, that's fucking easy, it's the connection I need. I tried a few times, one girl said "would you stop being so damn gentle with me and just fuck me." I just laughed and pushed her off. That shit is just so empty and pathetic.
I hadn't read all your posts before I wrote to you the first time. Since I have, I see that you are making a mountain out of a d Bol tablet. She just needs some space. You violated her trust in the past and that's hard to get over. You have to stop playing games with her if you really love her. This she texted and I didn't then I sent ten more texts bullshit is just foolish. When she's ready to talk the two of you need to sit down and figure out what the hell your doing.
I understand your pain and I'm not being insensitive at all. I'm right where you are. Only I got totally drunk and disappeared for about a week. So maybe I'm writing this to myself. But either way we need to grow up and stop playing games.
I don't think your situation is tragic, just breathe and let her come to you. Stop that crazy mind of yours.
Your rite man. I just hope she comes back. She gave me a lot of second chances. Lol. I hope she realizes I was telling the truth and not cheating. And she give me another 1. lol went to gym befor did a bangin chest and back workout. Lol
BigBmajGood bro. Keep smiling.
Trust is a mother f er man....a woman wants to trust her man 110% and feel safe at all times. Once u break that trust, shew we bro. Watch out. It's like jumping up n down on there heart over and over . Trust takes a lot of time to build and even more time to rebuild.
U said u cheated n the past. U broke her trust. Now she wants to check ur phone, wanting to know where ur at, what ur doing 24/7. U going out w the guys at bar and not answering ur phone isn't helping. U gotta earn her trust back. I u really want her back. Lay low and earn back her trust and stay there. It will take time . But, it can b done if she loves u. Just don't lay around crying and not eating, being depressed. U did this not her. So man up and fix it....or move on bro !
BigBmajMan you sound just like me. You cannot focus on fixing everything with anyone right now. But you can focus on fixing yourself.
I know the temptation to call her today and beg her forgiveness. I'm in the same fucking boat. But that just looks so needy and desperate, things women hate to see more than anything. Just take some time and heal yourself. You will be able to eat soon and will start making gains again.
I just lost 20 lbs because of this bullshit, when I can't sleep right and eat right weight just falls off me like crazy. But i have to get over it, there is no other option. Not if I ever want to be happy with her, myself, or anyone else for that matter.
You will be ok. It doesn't feel like it, but you will. I've pulled myself out of the ditch of total despair a thousand times, always thinking I can't survive and I do. You have been hurt before and you will be again don't let it ruin you.
Keep your head up brother.
Thanx bro. And I hear what your saying. On top oh it all sux Xmas Is rite around the corner. But your totally rite. I know all the advice given is what I need to hear just easier said the. Done ya know.
Was gunna give her a call today when she gets to work in a little. I know she'll be the only one there for a little. She'll have to answer the phone. And I'll tell her just gimmie 5 mins. And try to explain and get her to believe me and maybe meet up later after work for a coffee. Or something.
Do it in person.. you're just going to dig yourself into a deeper hole doing it over the phone or txt.. lay everything out and be 100% honest.. if you try to cut corners with your story she'll figure it out and think you're cheating.. they always do
Dude she cuts all my sentences short and try's to belittle me and finish my statements with her assumptions... Maybe I'll just cool it get my shit together for a few days then maybe next week I'll reach out. Or maybe I'll just get the mindset maybe I need to move on... I know that's my best option. Everyone I know says that's what I got to do.
Nah you don't let her do that.. if you have something to say you say it and if she tries that shit you put her in her place.. after you say your piece let her say what ever the hell she has to say.. I can't stand people who don't let me finish sentences.. that's a good way to get your head bit off
When she does that shit she'll say what she wants then hangs up and won't answer any my calls. Last thing she argued with me at was my guy friends at work randomly send pix of chicks to each other cause that's what guys do. I told get I don't like her seein my phone cause if she sees that she'll go nuts and out of respect that's y I don't like her going through my phone. It's just how it is working with a bunch of guys all day. She cuts me off saying I'm raised by wolves and that's do degrading. Weird and gay.
Eh I'd just tell my friends not to send me picts of naked women.. You're just being a push over if you don't make them stop.. I don't need them.. I don't get off sending or receiving picts of girls who most likely took the picts for their boy friend and them only.. then again they're really fucking stupid for doing that.. but that's a diff story. As for the hanging up shit.. that's why you talk to her in person.. that's just how it is with irate women.. you'll lose every time it's over the phone.. just gotta do it in person
These are the factors. Last Sunday had a meeting at work. To herbs would come over afterwords. Texted her like 10 times no response so I figured she's sleeping or idk. So I went home and wound up going out with some buddies from work. She texted me as soon as I got to the bar/lounge. I didn't reply I knew she would be pissed either way. I ignored her texts stupidly. And till today she's pissed. She thinks I'm cheating on her or trying to cause I ignored her. The t he past month her n I haven't been as involved in the bedroom as we normally are. Reason being I been out the gym for like 2 months and I felt like a slob in front of her and idk just been discussed with my self. But she thinks I'm banging sum1 else. In the pas I've cheated and made some bad decisions but I swear on my life I'm not messing around behind her back. But she thinks other wise.
Fucking kill it in the gym... walk in there with murder in mind and murder the weights until you can't walk normally out of the gym.. I had to do that and it helped me through a lot of dark dark times.. the gym became a sanctuary for me after a while
That's the one thing I love about this sport is at the end of the day through all the bullshit those iron weights will always be there!! Best stress reliever ever!
that or paintball =p can't stop running when your being shot at hehehe
Well we are to listen if you need or if you write down the reasons she left. But on a side note i have spent acouple times at the gym with tears just flowing from my eyes. When a girl left me or when my dad died at only 55 that dad i was in the gym alone, thinking,
I personally put on country music and just go at it
Thanx dude. Just sux cause I have trouble eating rite without this bullshit. And now it's even harder cause I'm experiencing the depression.
Listen man im no mack daddy but all i can say is and i hope you listen !!!!! Go out with the guys get ur ass to the gym go pump some iron. DONT DRINK. She WANTS time she WANTS space thats just what you do. Dont call her dont bump into her out. Women want us to call and carry on makes them feel better as we are crying over them. Cry to yourself dont let her see you sweat. If she loves you she will call or try to bump into you
Get ur mind right man goodluck
Man my wife and I been together for almost 10 years broken up 4 or 5 times.
1 Simply you first take care of yourself go to gym keep working take care of your home 2nd decide why you broke up was it really your fault? Was it her fault? Was it stubbornness on both your parts? 3rd do you want her back or is it worth it? 4th if you want her back give her time to herself. You can text her after a few days to a week. But don't go insane on this a simple thought I would say hi see how you are because I was thinking about you. Leave it at that do not pressure her. This is most important because acting like a slob psycho that can't live without her is going to push her away further. Remember give her time and that 1 simple text can open that door back up for you.
aylmejorGo to the gym flex in the mirror and admire yourself. Repeat.
Lmao!!! So true. But I can't have sex with my self!!! Lol
BigBmajWho says? I do it daily. I've even slept with millions of ladies who have no clue we did.
GearofWarSure you can! Fuck that fist like it's going out of style, bro. Or get a fleshlight. My old lady got me one for my B-Day bout 2 years ago and it's the bomb. Truth.
lol...fleshlight...does it feel like a real pussy?? my hands need a break
UFOThat's just a part of life brother...sometimes the gear will def kick up your anxiety and emotions a lot though. What compounds you running? All the advice I can give is if you like the chick and it was a dumkb break up then get her back, if not or she did something against you, fuck it, move on to the next. Nothin helps relive that stress more than killing the gym