Sounds like a problem, brother. I’ve been married seven years this month and we have a third coming in four weeks. I’ve had no such issues, although I did have a bit of a rift over not having regularly after the first. She actually thought we were and was surprised I even had such a view of things, but we’ve had more regular sex than ever before since that.
It’s harder when she’s huge and uncomfortably pregnant, but she still have sex every other day or a few times a week. You might want to try to increase intimacy in all other areas and try to spark it that way, from the top down or outside-in?
Modern marriage is also hurt by western Christianity lineage of saying marriage is for procreation, as is sex. Our Orthodox Christianity has a more wholistic view of marriage, with the marriage first being a union that makes two one and provides the circumstances for living life. Raising children is only the next step. Obviously, this is a profound issue that can be affected by a multitude of issues, which is why I have tremendous sympathy for you and can only help
but offer some measly advice. This is a primary reason for infidelity, as sex isn’t seen as something a partner should offer even just out of caring and sacrifice for their spouse. Even if I don’t feel like having sec due to any number of reasons (admittedly a rare occurrence), I would do so out of obligation to keep my wife fulfilled and satisfied. I don’t see why more wives can’t devote a couple of minutes to even just oral sec if it would profoundly change the state of their husbands happiness and well-being. How happy would most men be if their wife went out of her way to offer such things simply for his enjoyment? How much easier would the daily sacrifices he makes be undertaken in the knowledge he is taken care of at home in such a way?
Sorry for the extended comments. Tenseness is not a virtue of mine….

@simonmagus84 you know what's crazy...I dated a chick long ago and the relationship was purely sexual but she moved away and got pregnant. When she moved back I met her baby and got attached to the little girl. Man let me tell you when her mom wanted to start having casual relations with me once again I couldn't do it, do to the fact that she was a mother to a kid I was attached to. So my point is I can totally see how kids affect sex in a relationship. It kinda changed the way I looked at her. This was the First time that happened to me. I was like what the hell is going on. She even took her baby out of town to her moms and she came back and I didn't want to go see her when her kid wasn't even around. Lol I told her to call when her baby comes back home. Her kid was around 5 at the time so not a baby but still.

I used to always m feel kinda weird when guy said shit like this, like I would feel it’s very sexiest and only sex crazed creepy horn dogs say this shit. Then I found out it’s 1,000% true. My girl never wants sex and would rather ruin our whole relationship then just have sex every once in a while, but if she met a new guy tomorrow she’s bang him twice a day for the next year, sure the first few months she might actually want to because it’s new and fun but even when she doesn’t want to she would do it and pretend to live it and want it, just because she knows he won’t be ok with a no, and she wants him to like her. After all these years she’s perfectly comfortable telling me no. And now after telling me no for so long I’m obviously not leaving her because if it so why give in now?

Wanted I seriously couldn't...I'd have to become a player like you if that's the case!
Damn I can imagine this type of non sexual thing goes on all across America with married couples.

Wanted got on all fours and licked it up like an animal

I learned if i want to make a mess i have to clean it up. Clean up / whipe up shirts next to the bed. Tissues on the night stand and grab a wash cloth wet it with cold water and place it down there for her to speed up recovery so i can go again