So I went to a gay pride parade today...
So in support of my trans male son I went to the gay pride parade, well mostly in support of my son and partly for the naked/half-naked young women running around in the streets.
So I'm standing there watching the parade when the drag queens start passing by. I found myself musing,
"if there's any reason not to go gay it's that I'd never be able to find a comfortable pair of shoes to fit me. I can't imagine trying to walk this parade in those heels."
Then I thought,
"That's it? The deal breaker is comfortable shoes?"
I chuckled silently at the absurdity of the thought and then...
"Why do I, in this sea of bouncing titties and thongs, have my attention glued to the shoes another man is wearing and thinking about how comfortable they may or may not be?"
No homo?
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Supporting your son is a wonderful thing to do! He needs to know you accept him as he is...that's so important. It will give him confidence to live his life as he chooses without guilt or remorse. There is no price for that!
Old thread...but your a cool ass dad.
I second that.
Kudos to you brother Greg for supporting your child! I would have expected no less from such a fine man with great integrity! At the end of the day it all comes down to love and acceptance, that's all that really matters! Much respect my friend!
Very well said, Theophany.
No Homo Guidebook, chapter 8 section 4b states:
"Supporting your kid with unconditional love never requires a no homo.
Good on ya bro.
No homo.
"No Homo Guidebook, chapter 8 section 4b states:"
LMAO!
The No-Homo Handbook is no laughing matter sir!
Bwahahaha!
Ace VenturaYou just sound like me....off cycle. Simple solution: need more test!
RustyhookerForm over function. Lol! Shoes gotta be tough to wear.
My daughter was lesbian for many years and as she neared her 20's she started to date a guy or 2. She's comfortable being bi while we tease her about being greedy. Lol! As long as shes happy, theres much bigger issues in life to worry about
Pain is beauty. LOL!
Excuse me for my ignorance about the topic. I mean this with the most sincerity possible.... but why if your son is trans was he at a gay pride parade? I was just under to understanding trans people (as a whole) all aren't gay? I'm just surprised the trans people wouldn't want their own parade.
But shit man I probably would have been asking myself about those damn shoes too lol. I walked behind a float when I was younger because my hockey team was in a parade and that was in shoes and my feet were killing me after lol.
Most trans people struggle with the identity or gender they was born with and feel they are trapped in the wrong body male /female doesn't matter this is a way they can express who they are .
Ah I see....
There is an interesting, albeit heart wrenching, process watching a very young child struggle with trying to put words to how they feel inside. At first it might be seem as tom boyish behavior by the child and adults.
As the child becomes more sexually aware, they struggle to identify themselves based on what they learn around them. My child first thought he might be bi at 13 years. Perhaps recognizing that (s)he has an attraction to girls but had learned that (s)he should be attracted to boys. Then, at about 14 or 15 years, (s)he came to the conclusion that being gay was more how (s)he truly felt. By the time (s)he was 16 or 17, (s)he had come to the final conclusion that he was not a she at all.
Imagine the struggle you would have to face to let go of the invested identity you've had all your life. Your name, your clothes, old photos, relationships with classmates, friends, family, etc. And then undertake this massive change that will make you a member of one of the least accepted sub-social groups.
"You're not just gay, you're one of those freaks"
Needless to say, this would not be a cross you'd be eager to carry. Years of counseling bears that out.
As for ties to the gay community. In a sense you are correct. If my Trans male child is attracted to girls, wouldn't that ultimately make him straight. After all, it's who you go to bed as not who you go to bed with.
But what about his partner? My son has had a mastectomy but is not apt to get the "lower" procedure because of the pain, mutilation, and scarring. His partner would most likely be a lesbian.
I try to put myself in your shoes as a parent brother and it hurts my heart to ponder all of the issues you guys have had to sort through and it is likely tenfold worse for your son. But I am also happy that you all did work it out together.
I had to reign in a friend of mine the other day who was cutting his daughter out of his life because she decided she was lesbian after getting out of an extremely abusive marriage. It didn't take long for the lightbulb in his head to start working.
I appreciate that and kudos to your friend for coming around (and to you for giving him a sobering kick in the ass).
I think my wife had a harder time of it than my child or myself. We are fortunate to live in an area where there is fairly broad social acceptance.
My wife feels like she lost her daughter, as if she died. She laments that she will not be able to do all of the mother daughter things she was looking forward to. Picking out wedding dresses, and grandchildren, are big ticket items for her.
That's awesome that you only care about the wellbeing of your child and not what society says. It takes a big person to maintain that way of life. There's always the option of adoption in the future and I'm sure your son will find someone who's attracted to him for who he really is and I bet it would make for a far better family/household than your stereotypical family.
I worked with two women for many years and I'm certain people are born that way. Some people say it's a choice but who would choose that? I'm sure it's a tough life. I worked with a guy that's not gay but is the most femine man I've ever met. We're talking hard, dangerous brutal work. Someone died there a month ago. I wouldn't have hired him. In all my years he is by far the hardest worker I've seen. Works like a damn dog day after day and never complains or says a bad word about anyone. You can't always judge a book by the cover.
That was kind of the angle I was getting at. We all have a preset notion of what will become of our kids. We of course understand that very little will be predictable but what you all have dealt with is on the extreme end of possibility.
Its now the lgbtq community
Which is
Lesbian
Gay
Bi Sexual
Trans gender
Questionable
Community
They all group together
No bs those guy pride events get wild. I work alongside alot of people that are part of the guy community and I've had this job for awhile now and I still am just not used to having another man hit on me I laugh it off and they know its not my thing but the way they party gets crazy.
Thats hilarious that you were wondering about how the hell they wear those fucking heels. What about all the leather I know you had to see all that shit also at those events.
Also respect for supporting your son.
LOL
Well, at least you didn't try them on, just to be sure !
I have the same issue .. youhave no idea what it's like to find a pair of heels to fit my gorilla feet .. I had a pair of red pumps but I split the sides out.. lol good for you for supporting your son
Good god man you'd look like one of those East German shot putters back in the 70s. Lol
LOL, I could think of several deal breakers besides that for me personally but hey bro its all good. No homo.
Lol.
Def a no homo!!
Lol, it's funny to see so many people interested in it and saying no homo as well. Maybe you need to take a look at CENSORED and finally come out of a closet? No homo tho.
LIghten up. Maybe you want to come out of the closet? Why so butt hurt? (intended pun)
Instead of no ho mo....he’s trying to ho no mo. His ass is hurting
Pmsl funny a new guy posts straight here on this post to me, must be one of my old friends hahahaha